Perhaps it's just me, but if this sounds at all familiar, please speak up.
-Have you ever been puttering around the house fixing this and cleaning that watching your husband play Wii for a consecutive three hours and wonder 'I married this guy?!'
-Or watch him doing something so completely geeky and nerdy that you wish you weren't in public for everyone else to notice the display of random geekery by your own spouse? (all while quietly stepping to the side and giving the same- "look at the crazy guy" look)
-Or as he walks in the door at night and you see a giant paycheck where his body should be? Like one of those cartoony cats that looks at a bird and sees a big steamy pot roast? This probably happens because he waltzes out of your morning leaving behind the bowl of cereal in the sink and then in again at night after the kids have been tucked into bed to nosh on the leftovers of dinner and watch some TV before lumbering up to bed.
-Or at the very least, he's a live-in-weekend-babysitter who lets the kids run around and destroy the place while he plays more Wii and you go get a hair cut. That blessed hour and a half to have your roots dyed, some acutal conversation with The Best Stylist Ever(TM), and talk about.... kids, family, and husbands.
What does life do to a marriage? Especially when kids come bursting in with their jam hands and take over the joint? Lately I've been trying to remember the last date night the husband and I went on... you know, without the kids. And either my memory is completely failing (which could be a viable option at this point) or we just haven't made the time for it in a long, long while. It was starting to feel like we were just the support-staff for the function that is raising kids in his house.
And while marriage counseling would probably be the caviar solution for this problem, we're on a mac & cheese budget of time and money. The solution we've decided on for a bit of a marriage tune-up (and possible brake replacement) is a book I've been skimming here and there through the years... Mom's Needs, Dad's Needs: Keeping Romance Alive Even After the Kids Arrive by Willard F. Harley. (and I actually got the hubs to agree to read a book- monumental)
And boy, do we need to re-focus our priorities! Anyway, I highly recommend this one for just a little boost of happiness in the home, and wanted to share our journey. Stay tuned!